Monday, March 7, 2011

Musical Mondays - Love Hurts

Love Hurts
But sometimes it's a good hurt
and I feel like I'm alive

Most of us do not associate something that does not necessarily feel good with something that makes us feel alive. Yet how many of us have had a moment when because we loved so much we hurt, because we cared so much we endured when at other times we may not.

I am a hopeless romantic and have always like to think that deep down in 99.9 % of all people there is some good. Because of this view there have been many times when I have had my feelings hurt and have learned lessons that if I had been a bit more guarded I may not have had to learn at such a cost. Yet still I am not sure if I would go back and change my ways.

There was a time in this world when we could think such ways for the most part and did not have to worry about whether or not someone would take advantage of one with such a gullible heart. Maybe it was how I grew up in a small rural Oklahoma town. Everyone knew everyone and although there were things about this that drove me nuts, it had good qualities also. People spoke to each other when they passed. If someone fell on hard times, others helped them out and gave them support and encouragement. People waved at one another even when they did not know each other. It was simple hospitality and manners.

Such things still happen today yet it is obvious that it is not as prevalent as in the past. Yes it is a sign of the times, something that when I was younger I swore I would not harp on as I grew older. "When I was young one, this is how things were." Yet here I am doing just that.

Love Sings
When it transcends the bad things
Have a heart and try me
Cause without love I won't survive.

Yet when one finds themselves giving expecting nothing in return sometimes the reward can be a blessing ten fold. Yes it is hard these days to step out on that edge, to trust enough to take a chance that it will not necessarily blow up in your face. We want to believe that most of the time we can act upon our desires to do good and that it will not be taken advantage of. Yet each day we see evidence that there are so many occurrences in the world where some have done so and paid the price.

I have had many an experience where I took the step of faith and wished that I had not done so. Yet I have also had some where I was blessed by the outcome. Although I have to say that the ways of old I think are a thing of the past and more than likely things will get worse before they get better, I still do not find that a good reason to harden my heart. If we all succumb to that mindset then the world very well will only become a worse place to live in.

Yet if occasionally we seize an opportunity to help someone who is in need, we comfort someone who is hurting or alone, or we simply sit and listen without judgment; we may be amazed at the blessing we receive in return. Not only from the experience alone yet also from the gift coming back to us in return. Karma is a real thing

Listening to the radio over the weekend, an old favorite came on. "Love Hurts" by Incubus. It reminded me that love is not always that wonderful magical sweet and sappy thing. Sometimes it does hurt but sometimes that hurt is a good thing. And when it is good it can be wonderful. Enjoy the week ahead and take the time to stop and be there for someone. The blessing will come back to you.


mxtodis123 said...

Like you, I was raised in a small town where everyone knew everything about you. People were friendly to one another and waved, said hello, etc, but as an 18 year old I wanted to see the world...and at that time, the world was New York City. In my youth I loved the fast pace, and it didn't really bother me...but now, as I age, I long for that quiet friendly country life.

SilverFox said...

Very beautiful and very true.

AkasaWolfSong said...

I so hear what you are saying...but I think truly that the times they are a changing and for the better. As humanity awakens to itself we see the content of disconnectedness transcending all across the World. I see it when natural disasters fall upon a certain area and people come to help, in whatever capacity they are able. Communities large and small are starting to come together as well, to rectify homelessness, hunger, etc. We are learning albeit slowly, and that is the part that hurts time is a wasting, and what are we waiting for?
What a Great Sharing Sister/Friend. You are a Light shining brightly for all to see!

Illustrated Ink said...

Wonderful post, Janie! Even though I didn't grow up in a small town, I am such a hopeless romantic and definitely believe that most people are good souls. I get so upset when I see a show where a trusting person has stopped to help a stranger and has been harmed or killed because of it. It's so devastating and sad. I suppose one must find balance between open love/trust and self preservation. The important thing is to keep loving and reaching out through the darkness.

Jayne said...

You do indeed "reap what you sow" in this life.

Lisa @ Grandma's Briefs said...

A heartfelt post that resonates. I know what you're saying. People are wrapped up so much in themselves anymore that they don't reach out like they used to. Sad ... and sometimes hurtful.

I gotta say, it is SO refreshing to see another grandma sharing music that rocks and isn't cloyingly sweet. Love it!

Scented Leaf said...

I grow up in a friendly community in the middle of nature and I am missing those peacefully and serene days which I spent there, but I'm grateful for every moment which makes me feel alive... thank you for the song - I like its verses. Have a happy women's day!

Rue said...

Wonderful post. Thought-provoking as always. I used to trust everyone without reservation, but after a few bumps, I've had to be a bit more careful. Still - it's nice to be an optimist!

Faerie Moon Creations said...

What a wonderful post! It's true, love does hurt. And it hurts when it truly matters the most. I'm a hopeless romantic, as well. I've had my heart broken many times in many different instances. But I always bounce back - because of that hope. :) Thanks for including a video of "Love Hurts." Theresa :)

Kristen said...

You said it. Now most would think that I should be a guarded person because of the things I endured as a child and young adult but I just can't. I am an open book and welcome anyone in and yes that means I do set myself up for heartbreak but I also set myself up to have the best too. That is the part I look forward to. Although I will be honest when I do get hurt it does take a bit to recover.