Thursday, September 30, 2010

A Thought To Ponder - Honesty

A lie may take care of the present, but it has no future. ~Author Unknown

 This last week I encountered a bit of a hiccup in my otherwise smooth sailing life. To some this incident would be something rather silly and initially one may not think much of it. Yet it has given me quite a blow and I have found myself struggling to get back to my normal self. Solitude has helped somewhat… shopping didn’t hurt… music always makes me happy… yet still I can feel it presence lingering.

A half truth is a whole lie - Yiddish Proverb

The incident that kicked me in the butt so, was someone dear telling me something they knew I wanted to hear yet never meaning a word of it. I am not sure how you like your coffee stirred yet for me I like it straight and black (figuratively speaking – I take it with sugar and cream in real life) I would much rather like someone to tell me the straight truth, even if it is not what I may necessarily want to hear, then to lie to me. Eventually the truth always comes out. When it does it is like bringing up the same damage all over again, thus you get kicked twice instead of just once.

The least initial deviation from the truth
 is multiplied later a thousandfold.
~Aristotle

Usually such an event would not bother me so, yet when it is someone who means more to you than the average Joe on the street, it makes a difference. I have learned over my life experiences that it is fruitless to hold grudges or to harbor on events that may have not been the best to you. Yet I also know that looking at them realistically is also important. In doing this sometimes we have to admit things that we may not necessarily like. This is what I am dealing with most right now. Something that I believed to be true is not necessarily so.

The hardest tumble a man can make is to fall over his own bluff. ~Ambrose Bierce


Thank goodness for busy work, as well as the beauty of nature and big bumblesome dogs who are still puppies. They all seem to help keep one’s mind off of things that may try to burrow their way into ones thoughts when one really would rather they don’t. I know that as the saying goes “this too shall pass” it is just taking a bit longer than usual.

13 comments:

AkasaWolfSong said...

I'm very sorry you have had to experience this Janie...

I am happy however that you had alone time to process the experience and had your adorable Winston to walk and play with...those loving pets of ours can and do create some unconditional love we all need.

I pray you a most beautiful day!
In Love and Light!

xoxo

TMCPhoto said...

The truth can be such a difficult thing to handle in the hearing and in the telling. I admire your approach and am in the process of teaching my Peanut what it means to have a policy of truth, it's a rocky path.

I'm sorry that this situation is so hard for you and glad that you are able to take a step back and look at the situation and see things clearly, no matter how distasteful the outcome.

Illustrated Ink said...

Ouch, that does hurt. In the past, I've told my share of "white" lies, and it always lead to disaster...honesty IS the best policy. I can only hope that your friend justified it to herself from a place of caring about your feelings (even if it was obviously wrong and hurtful in the end). I hope this wound heals soon for you...

faerwillow said...

~off the beaten path...your last photo is unbelievable gorgeous!

honesty is always the best policy...no matter what side you are on...words hurt when lies are formed...even when they are not...i am sorry such has arose in your life but a gentle soul as yourself is doing whats best...you've taken it in...processing the thought and i know in time you will move forward with a new day to come...we always seize to learn...much l♥ve nad light always~

Faerie Moon Creations said...

I understand completely. I feel the same way about honesty. I do not like being lied to - even if the person feels it is "right" to do so. I'd rather hear the truth - even if it hurts. I also take comfort in my pups and in nature. The combination of the two always makes me feel so much better! :) Theresa

mxtodis123 said...

I'm sorry you had to go through this. I've had it happen to me. Sometimes, though, people don't mean harm, they think they are doing right...at least in my case, that was. It does hurt and I do hope you heal soon.
Mary

Mother's Moon's Message said...

such lovely consoling words from all of you... I am not one to wear my feelings on my sleeve... dont like to think anyone thinks I'm whining.. but you all always have such a kind way of being there... blessings to you

AkasaWolfSong said...

That is because you are worth it to us Janie...whatever are Sisters for if we cannot hold one another when the need arises?

Sharing from the deepest depths of who you are is hardly whining my Beautiful Sister/Friend! :)

Giving you a big cyber hug right now and thanking you for your lovely and heartfelt comment on my blog Janie!!!!

xoxo

Jules@MoonCatFarms said...

Please don't feel that you're whining, what we are all doing is sharing.

This was an important post and it's helpful to know that you (and we) have a lot of support from your blogging friends as well as the furry ones :)

Jules

Teresa said...

It's amazing to me that most people DON'T want to hear the truth. As a behavior disorders teacher, students and parents live miserably in ignorance and fight tooth and nail to deny the truth. I'm right there with you in preferring the truth.

WyldeSage said...

I have always been sensitive to people who lie to me, even more so as I have gotten older..and yes, it hurts so much more from those who are close to you. I just lost a friend because she is a compulsive liar, and it ruined our friendship. I hope that you and your friend are able to work things out...no one deserves to be lied to. *hugs*

Jo said...

Aww Janie
I'm so very sad that the past few days have been ones of such pain and heartache. Untruths cut deep and can so easily destroy the precious trust that exists between friends. I hope that the healing you have found has resulted in your heart feeling less raw and tender.
Hugs xxx

Anonymous said...

I've told plenty of lies in my time...to another partner. In a case such as this...one that I'm intimate with, this is not the case. I wasn't lying...my timing was just delayed from another's expectation. Although your perception my be very real...lying in an instance such as this, may not be the case.