Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Believe... And Maybe You Too Could Fly

Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you
All they show is limitation
Look with your understanding
Find out what you already know
And you will see the way to fly.
-Richard Bach-

I have often marveled at the making of a successful person. Many times it is the sheer luck of being in the right place at the right time. Yet more than that I think the need for the attribute of perseverance needs to be present. You know the ability to continually get up after being knocked down again and again.

Although many times it can appear that the one who has reached their goal of success seemed to just waltz their way through life and suddenly there they are; more times than not there is a story behind that journey. Usually the story is a long one. I once read that in order to be a success at something you need to have completed the task at least a total of ten thousand times. This doesn’t really sound like much yet when you start to apply it to whatever it is you are wanting to master you realize the time and dedication that is needed to truly do such a thing. It is not something that will happen overnight and without some trials.

Many of us do not have the ability to do this. There are many reasons that keep us from accomplishing such a goal. Slothfulness is probably the biggest. The procrastination bug has bit us all at one time or the other. Some of us are much more susceptible to its bite then others and its symptoms linger and never completely leave. It can be a tough disease to recuperate from. It seems that there is always something that we need to do and thus we postpone taking the extra time to work on our dream. We fool ourselves by telling ourselves that we will do it when we finish what we feel is so pressing at the time. Yet in reality we know that at the end of the day that time will not be there for one reason or the other. Either we found more things that needed our attention or we have given all our energy to the things before, leaving none for ourselves and our wishes.

There is also the doubting bug. Its bite can become just as troublesome. Planting ideas into one’s mind to question the need for such devotion to be given to something that one may never ever accomplish and even if they eventually do, the success they seek may not be what they wanted in the first place. Such a bite has the ability to cascade into a series of questions in one’s mind that can leave them confused as to whether their actions are really even worth the effort and even more so the cost. This eventually causes stagnation and in many times a total shut down of any activity towards the desired destination. A feeling of guilt can also accompany; which can itself manifest into a whole other issue.

The ability to sacrifice is also a trait that one must possess. One can juggle the many tasks that may be in front of them for so long until finally a decision will need to be made as to the priority of each one. When this is finally done, there will be things that will fall to the side. Many times when this happens, the things that must be limited are things that can possibly be of great importance. One must realize though that this limitation should not last forever. Usually it is for a time period in order to accomplish a given task. When this occurs in regards to people it can be a trying thing. I often think that it is more difficult for an overly emotional person to travel this road as they are often pulled between their desire for their goal and the need to tend to those who feel that they are being ignored. Too often when this occurs, they will side with the individual or situation at hand as it is present - then and now as compared to their task which may not be something that is concrete and in front of them yet.

Regardless… we all have dreams and aspirations in us. Some lie dormant for years and never see their fruition into reality. It is easier to hold it back and look at it fondly as a dream. In this way we can see it as we think it ought to be and not how it may actually be. Seldom in ones dream do we have any of the negativity that may occur if we were to truly take the actual journey. Also we can say to ourselves, if I had truly wanted to I could have done…… You fill in the blank. We have all been there and done that.

Others strive towards their dreams all their lives never actually getting to the final point. It always seems that there is something that has precedence over it. Constantly we place it on the back burner until we feel we can give it the time we feel we truly need to give to it. When in truth, such a time seldom comes. Some are content with this method. Much like the continual dreamer, it allows them to hold on to the reality they wish they could achieve. Others form a foul taste in their mouth for the dream that in the beginning was everything. Now it only leaves them yearning and regretful.

There are even those who choose denial as a means to deal with their aspirations for themselves. They tell themselves that really it is not that important to them. They are quite content with an occasional dabble in it yet they never really wanted to give the full energy that it would require to see if they had it in them to accomplish it. It was a silly notion of youth and that was all. Definitely it was nothing that a serious adult would ever consider. They have too many other responsibilities that they feel are much more important than any silly dream they may have held in their heart since they were a child.

Then there are those who have a dream, a desire to reach something. It is stronger than anything they have ever felt. They start on their journey towards what they hope to be their final goal. They falter along the way of course. There are setbacks and unforeseen obstacles at times. Sometimes they occur more often they wished. There are even times when they sit and contemplate the option of giving up. Yet each time this comes up they ultimately reach the conclusion that it is not an option. There may be times that they slow their cadence yet always they continue. They know that to stop would only hinder the cause. They always have their eye on the final point they see clearly in their mind. It is not necessarily success but to finish the journey; to complete that which they have started. To see what the outcome of their commented endeavor brings.

I would bet that there are many out there who have chased a dream. And when they accomplished all that they had wished to do, they are not necessarily a famous rock star or a bestselling author. They are someone who pursued their dream and took the steps to accomplish their goal. It is a good feeling to say that you completed a task, even if the end result was not exactly what you had wished it would have been.

So I urge you out there with a dream in the back of your mind. The secret wish you have inside that you may have never shared with anyone in fear that they would think you foolish to think such thoughts. I urge you to start that journey; whether it is from the very beginning and taking your first step or starting back up again on something that you sat to the side for whatever reason. Follow with vigor the path that leads towards your wishes. Give to your journey the time and energy needed to help bring it to full view. Delight in the experience of your travels and the experience it will bring into your life. Allow yourself to be happy in being good to you.

There will be those of course that will still scoff at you. There always are those kinds. Yet much like the saying above, look not with your eyes or listen with your ears… for they do all have limitations. A true dream gives your foresight inside; something that cannot be seen or heard but felt. If we could all but trust our intuition and believe in what we know deep down to be true….. Maybe we all could fly.


Wendilea said...

Beautiful post Mother Moon! Wishing a dream is easy, taking it to flight requires relentless wings of courage. Some of the saddest words I've heard are woulda, shoulda, coulda. Thank you for your words of inspiration!

Stella Seaspirit said...

“The Universe is full of magical things, patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.” -Eden Phillpotts

Wendy said...

I think one of my biggest struggles is 1) the actual fear of success..I'm so used to being second-place, being successful would be anxiety provoking and 2) Knowing what success really is on a personal level. For those of us who are perfectionists, it seems whatever I do is NEVER good enough. Thank you for an insightful and wise post as always.

Marie S said...

"If people knew how hard I worked to get my mastery, it wouldn't seem so wonderful at all."
~Michelangelo Buonarroti

This quote always comes to mind as I keep up my pursuit of my goal over and over and over again.
I believe it is the love of the process that will bring the reward and I have to remind my self of that all of the time too.
It is also important to take a step everyday towards the desire or dream no matter how small and celebrate the accomplishment of that.
Most of us want to just be there, not do any work.
Thank you so much over and over and over again for the most thought provoking posts!!
Love and huge hugs.
A journey of a thousand steps starts with one, just do it!

Scented Leaf said...

Yes, is true. Inside each is hiding a dreamer and our rebel souls help us to define our options. In certain stage of life we can reach some hidden dreams for fear of criticism of others eyes. Thanks for your meaningful words! We should let our mind wander and our imagination to fly.

Avie said...

As always, so absolutely spot on. Thank you for continuing to inspire. Blessings.

Not Hannah said...

It's kinda freaky, how you sometimes seem to write exactly what I need to read! :)

Moonwolf said...

Wonderful post Mother Moon! Very timely for me since I just began refocusing on a goal that I had pretty much given up on! Thank you!

RA said...

What a posting! You said it all, and you said it beautifully. Thank you. :)

The Frog Queen said...

Thank you, that was a great post! Very moving and hopeful. Thanks, made my day.


Nydia said...

I second Hannah... It's been a time since I last came in here (sorry!), and this is exactly what I needed to read. I'm one of the most positive people, but sometimes the energy and the hope stuck on the bottom of my soul. Then I read this, and I remember how it must be, and how I truly am.