In a perfect world.... there would be no crying, at least not because one was sad...
In a perfect world..... there would be no hatred or jealousy towards others for no reason...
In a perfect world..... Only kind words and love would be shared amongst each other....
In a perfect world.....
Wait, we don't live in a perfect world, and unfortunately we never will. There will always be someone somewhere who is crying because they are lonely, feel unloved, hurting, sad, and so on... There will always be those who lash out in unjustified hatred or jealousy towards someone for no reason except that they feel threatened. There will always be someone somewhere who needs to be held and loved.
Yet there will also still be those who share kind words with those in need. There will be those who if only via a smile will give of themselves. There will be those wonderful people who know just when you need a hug and give you an extra tight one when its needed. There will still be the total stranger who says just the right words at just the right time.
I am so thankful for that assurance. When I began this blog back in July of this year I guess you could say that I was lonely. I felt a void in regards to the kind of people whom I felt could understand me and my beliefs and such. I held so much of myself inside of me because of this and truly did not feel that I could share with many. As I met others with like thoughts it reassured me and I was excited about the prospects of people whom I would be able to finally share with. I am not sure what I was expecting exactly. That coming out and claiming myself Pagan would solve all the issues I once felt I had.
I have to laugh at myself now... when I think back on this... for I have learned that there truly is nothing new under the sun.... I have met some truly wonderful people via blogland, many whom I know I can say with confidence will be in my life for many years to come. A few who will be like family to me til the day I pass.... This makes me smile and be so thankful. Yet also I know that I have met some whom are not as nice, and this makes me sad.
I think that it is harder sometimes via blogland to decipher people such as this. It is so easy to speak a colorful word and make oneself appear so wonderful. To wrap our words in honey and sugar and pretty pictures and intice those who read them to think "Oh she is so sweet she has to be a wonderful person." Yet still things can be said and done in a subtle manner that can offend someone and at times one or both are not even aware. And just as in real life (outside of blogland) the message can spread and soon one is thought ill of with no good reason.
I am not really sure why I am writing this all... I have seen signs of such behavior and I have been told of such behavior... Never will I speak any names as truly that only adds to the fire and helps it to continue to burn. Yet truly I think that in some way we are all here for the same reason when it comes down to the bare nuts and bolts of it... we all had words which we wanted to speak for one reason or the other. We had a message we felt compeled to share. And truly I think that if the truth be known everyone of us has helped someone in some way, many at times without us even realizing it, as not everyone who reads our words leave a comment to verify their existence or the magnitude in which they were touched.
I am thankful for the kind words that are left in my comment boxes, yet am just as thankful for the disagreements that may appear. It is through open communication that one learns. I know that to many this post will make no sense what so ever.. yet it is just something that I felt I needed to say....
Blessings to All of you ...
13 comments:
I think we really never know why people do/say the things they do. I'm glad I've not met many who are negative - at least here in blog land. Perhaps I am too sheltered?
I too, started a blog as a way to 'get out there' a bit, and connect in a different way to people. It's really nice to read about people who are on the same path, and do struggle with all that entails.
And I am thankful for you, and your honesty. You just have the biggest heart. I do hope you won't let a few people's negativity bother you!
There are good and bad people no matter where we go. It would be wonderful if there were no mean people. But then I have to ask myself, why are they like that? What in their life has made them this way? I don't think people are born mean.
(((HUGS)))
You make perfect sense..."big sister"...and although at times people say some horrid things...sometimes without meaning to...we just have to let it flow over us...although to be honest...I quite like to stand up and fight if cornered (bet you didn't know that about me did you...he he!)
At least no one can accuse me of sugar-coating anything...maybe I should though...keep you all on your toes!
Whatever someone has done (hope it wasn't me and my big mouth!) to hurt your feelings Janie...please don't think too long on it..."Tis the season to be Jolly"...and I would hate to see you sad!
Much...much Love and big friendly hugs..."little sister"
~Mother Moon...you were words written always touch me, "in a perfect world" i think something we have all thought about...i decided to start blogging as well, feeling i need more than what surrounded me in my daily life, a place to share spirituality & learn more, a way to express what i felt, to share photos i take and so one...the sentence you worte ..."Oh she is so sweet she has to be a wonderful person." strikes me as so true...i had a visitor stop by and leave me a message saying she could tell by my writing i was a soft soul...i had to laugh and replied back "i guess i have only potraid one side of me so far cause at home i am always in trouble"...we can be what we want, who we want, as long is it remains true to our own..your words did make sense and left me with thoughts to ponder, thank you. brightest blessings~
I appreciate your honesty in this post. You are a profound thinker and put words on your thoughts beautifully.
First of all I want to say that I am glad I found you. I was a pagan woman for many years and the earthiness of goddess worship left it's mark on my heart for life. I refuse to criticize or condemn paganism ,which has been a significant part of my life, even if some in my chosen spriritual path don't understand that.
I am sure that there are those bloggers out there who are challenging. I haven't met any that I know of yet but my followers list is small compared to many. It is great that you try to learn from those who tend to be more challenging as well as those who are friendly.
Well have a great day now..many blessings to you :)
I hope your day turns out wonderfully..Take care now :)
Thank you all so much for your lovely comments...My post was not intended to imply that someone had done anything towards me... It was just an observation that I have had over time... And also was fueled by things that had happened to others whom I have befriended.... I am a scorpio... that alone should tell you I tend to defend those whom are dear to me.....
I have never understood the reason that some are cruel or snobbish to others.... don't think I ever will... and sometimes I just have to stand up and say something... thank you all for listening....
I guess I feel lucky that so far everyone has been nice to me. Or at least nice when they post something on my blog.
I enjoy reading your blog and sometimes I feel you are reading my mind.
How lovely your mind works.
And yes, I agree with the others, what you said makes perfect sense. Your last comment is the crux of it all, "I have never understood the reason that some are cruel or snobbish to others.... don't think I ever will... and sometimes I just have to stand up and say something... thank you all for listening....".
That is, I am sure, why this venue is so perfect for sharing (good or bad, my words not yours). I feel that like "real" friendships the evolution of our time together will lift all of us up, albeit bit by bit.
You're wonderful to put it so perfectly.
And Hugs....oh my big hugs to you my dear.
I did not link your post but did mention it in mine this morning. You made me stop and think for sure and I took your lead and spoke to behavior this morning as well. Thanks and love, Linda
There is good and bad in all of us. And the side we present to others determines how we are 'labeled'. And we all 'label' others - short, fat, tall, thin, pagan, christian, mean, kind. It is human nature to want things/beings to fit into some category.
I have found in my wanderings that people say or do what they have learned or repeat how they themselves have been treated. Maybe a sense of insecurity has led to the behavior exhibited.
But no matter the label or the behavior, I am a firm believer that people are brought into our lives or we enter other people's lives for a reason. Maybe we have something to learn from the other person or maybe we have something to teach. Though the lesson may not be immediately evident.
We are all here, I think, to make some sort of connection. I started my blog as a way of expressing myself, showing my creations tpo the world, and finding like souls in this huge world. As the years have passed, and I have moved across the world, I use it as a way to share bits of my life with those I left behind. there is so much negativity in the world..I choose whom I connect woth in blog-land, and therefore, limit that negativity.
Peace to you
A wonderful post.
In blogland, we put ourselves "out there" for others, for ourselves - and sometimes there are those who would want to put us back where we came from.
Standing up and staying true to ourselves is the best defense against this negativity. Hold onto the new friendships. Discard the rest.
Somestimes I think I'm too mellow and relaxed for my own good. LOL
Live and let live.
That really is a motto of mine.
I don't care if people are white, black, red, straight, gay, Pagan, Christian, Heathen, etc.
As long as they're good people, I'm a fan.
I've been truly lucky. As long as I've been in the blog world, I've only had one negative comment that entire time. And I'm hoping that's because people realize and understand that I respect them and their ideas and lifestyle regardless.
Great post, Janie.
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