Tuesday, March 23, 2010

A Positive Attitude

Recently in one of my journeys through blogland I ventured upon a quote used a post on one of my favorite sites to frequent (Rue & Hyssop). She always has insightful words that manage to make one think and this was no different. I wrote the quote down and it lay on my desk for some time. Each day I would see its wisdom and realize how true it rang.

“For everything you missed… You have gained something else

And for everything you gain…. You lose something else

It is about your outlook towards life.

You can choose to Regret…. Or you can choose to Rejoice

How many times has something happened that at the time it appears to be one if not the worst thing that could have occurred? You rack you brain as to how it could have been avoided and what you will do now that it has happened. Yet in time as it comes to fruition you see that there was purpose to the cycle… Something occurs that would not have occurred if the prior “mishap” had not occurred.

There is always something positive in any situation. Sometimes it is hard to see the silver lining that may be so faint that the darkness of the clouds that it encircles keeps you from focusing on it. Yet still it is present. Sometimes it is not immediate that you are blessed with the goodness of a situation. Sometimes it can take time… Sometime it can take years….. Sometimes you may never see it… yet it is still present. Sometimes the gain is not necessarily for you, yet for another. Who through your trial and manner in which you handle and work through it, are inspired in an area of their lives to do likewise.

For those times that you feel you missed out on something that you should have had… and you wonder what it would have been like to have experienced it… There is another time that was given to you instead. A moment with just as much hope and just as much aspiration as the other… It may not be evident at that moment. Yet the question is what you will do with that moment. Will you squander it and give little or no attention to it as it was not “the moment” that you wanted or felt you deserved. You will sulk and hide in your corner for those things that you feel you lost. Blaming it on some unfair injustice that should never have happened?

It is not an easy thing to endure hard times. Such things as finances, relationships, and so on can come close to devastating one. Yet still the attitude that one holds during such times has a strong effect on how the story will play out. An attitude of bitterness and blame slowly builds walls that hold out the comfort and release one needs to work through such issues and move on with their lives. It keeps the anger always present and lurking in the shadows… never allowing the pain to heal. Sometimes release of such feelings can be a major feat. Letting go of something that has been your way of life for such a long time means change… Change means the possibility of discomfort… And although one may be in major discomfort already… The familiar discomfort is much easier to handle than an all together new discomfort.

I count myself so blessed to have the makeup that I have as a person. It took me some time to realize that it was not as easy for some to release such feelings. It was my feeling of not much self worth that thought that if I could do it anyone could. I realized in time that this was not the case. I will be honest and say that at times I do not have the patience I maybe should have in regards to some who are struggling with issues in their lives. Yet I think that this is mainly because I made a decision at an extremely young age to not allow the derogatory events of my life to keep me down. Don’t get me wrong… it was not an easy task at times to keep this promise to myself. There were many times that I felt I was lost in the darkness of my own sorrow to the point that I questioned if I would ever see light. Yet it was the consistent urge in me to keep going…The feeling that has always been in me that there is something better.

I do not talk much about the negative aspects of my life… I have never been one that opens freely and tosses out all the darkness that has occurred. I will at times, if I feel that my experiences can be a tool to comfort of help the situation. Yet mostly I keep them silent. It was hard enough to live through them the first time. Why would I want to continually relive such pain over and over… and even more when there is no good reason to endure such a thing?

I challenge you to ask yourself the question… Do you regret or do you rejoice… There are a couple things in my life that I have wondered about in regards to the choice I made and the results of that choice. I wonder if I should have chosen differently. I think if given the chance I may choose differently. Yet I also know that that is not a choice therefore it is an act I must accept and live with. I overall chose to rejoice. Rejoice in the chances I have been given… Rejoice in the blessings that have been bestowed upon me over and over again… and yes I even rejoice for the trials and pain that I have endured. As I know through even the deepest ones that there was much to be learned and gained.

Growth can be a painful experience. It can pull at parts of one that create great pain. It can take you to depths of yourself that you never thought existed. It can bring forth in one a clarity that is beyond explanation. There is nothing that is simply promised to be given to you. The road to any great gain is usually hard. Yet in the end when all is said and done the journey was well worth the effort and the sacrifice that was given. Rejoice… Rejoice and embrace all that you are… and all that you can be.


brandi said...

~my husband once said to me after i threw out the words...if only i could go back and changed my ways...made a different choice...what would it have been...he said...we are who we are because of the choices we have made...i like my life just as it is and would never try to go back and change...hhhmmm...i wondered...when did he become one with words...i think his words hold truth, if we could have changed a decision, a road taken...would we be where we are now...would we have missed what is...i try each day to embrace the day...REJOICE...not regret...we live this life but once, so shouldn't we make each day the best it can be rather than wallow in regrets...wonderful always are your thoughts...brightest blessings~

Bogaman said...

A positive approach is the most rewarding. Negativity just eats away at the soul, until there is nothing left. X.

SpiritPhoenix said...

I rejoice. Learned a long time ago that regret just eats away at you. And besides, I wouldn't be who I am and where I am today if it wasn't for my past!

Great post. I love how you delve into topics.

Not Hannah said...

Whew, I needed this one. Particularly in this heated interweb environment right now. (My word verification is "unglib," which is JUST PERFECT.)

Anonymous said...

Thank you for posting this. It spoke volumes to me.

Marie S said...

Something of great pain to me brought me to blogging and to you!
I am grateful!
Have a magical day!
This was an awesome post and much needed reminder.

Anonymous said...

Thank you again for your amazing words, they always seem to come just at the right time. It can be so hard to let the negativity and the garbage eat at you when it just seems never ending...I try not to dwell on all the past hurts, but I have not fully faced them yet to heal, its a long process, and letting go to grow is the only way I can live.

Moonwolf said...

I couldn't agree with you more! Like you, I have struggled with this philosophy in the past. But, ultimately I would not have grown into the person I am today if I had made different choices. Good or bad experiences -- they all worked together to create 'me' (warts and all, ;P). Thanks for the great post!


I taught my 3 kids and granddaughters:"life is what you make it"...no excuses.
thanks for stopping by and saying howdy on my anniversary blog..stop by and say howdy again any time.

Rue said...

I agree with Sage - this post is perfect timing! An introspective day - wondering if perhaps, I made a poor choice this week, and now I remember. A choice is never wrong. It just IS. And takes me another step down this Path.

I will Rejoice!

Much love to you!